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The Lusts of the Dominant Female

From the back of The Female Aggressor: A Study Of The Domination Complex by Lou Condor, published in 1967:

The Lusts of the Dominant Female

Married or single, the sado-masochistic female turns her partners into warped salves of carnal lust. This scientific, documented volume presents CASE HISTORIES of a female flagellant, spanking wife, masochistic husband and many others.

Read about clubs for DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE, MARITAL TRAINING, SUBMISSIVE HUSBANDS–and those bizarre DOMINATION GAMES! The masculine female is herewith exposed as a creature of compulsive domination who makes men her playthings of perversion.

I actually read a few of the chapters, which masquerade as “case histories” in that vintage pulp way, all sordid, if simply told, tales of classic femdom action. I’m sure it was utterly decadent at the time, but, as I am very wicked and quite a bit less traditional, I was not uber impressed… But you have lower standards. In everything. So maybe you’ll like it. And if you don’t pay for My wicked stories and directions, this is what you’re left with.

Yet, I did enjoy this bit in a traditional tale of boot licking & whipping — mainly because of the name of the Mistress is that of one of My cohorts. ;)

“You’re late!” she announces angrily.

Mr. X. knows he is not late, but he meekly nods his head. “I-I-I am sorry, Rose. I couldn’t help it.”

Oh, and look! It’s a “Wee Hours Classic!” I’m sure that once was the pervy code for “reading & masturbating late at night” — but doesn’t it also describe your wee willie, wanker? LOL

Female Aggressor

It’s Time For The Great Pumpkining, Charlie Brown

you know what pumpkining is, loser. It’s when sad sacks like you are forced to relieve themselves by carving holes into pumpkins and fucking the hell out of it. ‘Tis the season.

Peter, Peter pumpkin eater,
Had a wife but couldn’t keep her;
So he stuck it in a pumpkin shell
While BBC kept her very well.

As with My other humiliating Halloween challenge, I may just agree to watch you on cam as you stick your dicklet into a pumpkin and pump away — hell, I might just let you come in it too.

fuck-a-pumpkin-pumpkining-losersMaybe.

Maybe not.

Whatever.

you’ll need My chat IDs, of course; and then you’ll need to book your session with Me. Oh, yeah, you’ll need a pumpkin too.

Don’t worry; you won’t need The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. A little one will do for your little pumpkin-pounder sock puppet of a cock.

In fact, you might be better off using just a small gourd. Or maybe even a cherry tomato.

But, if you’re gonna go a pumpkining a lot, get a big one and you can carve a lot of holes in it.

Pair of panties, optional.

Pervy offer valid from now through Thanksgiving.

 

 

As If

FemDom Hotwife Cuckold Interracial wrote this about Venus Temple‘s image:

There’s something very special about a man who submits to his wife like this, a man who truly understands and accepts his place in the relationship. Very, very special. When you find him, love him and cherish him. Men like this are rare as diamonds.

To this, I laugh. Loudly. Barely qualifying as males, losers like this are not rare. And as for diamonds, that’s what they give Me for putting up with them.

Advice For Submissive Men & Dominant Women

For men who claim to be submissive: You can’t lead and have things your way and still pretend you are being submissive and serving her. Use your common sense, it’s in the other head.

For women in general: Don’t think being a Domme is about wearing a lot of black with a corset and a whip and chains. It’s not. Being a Domme is about making choices, it’s about taking control and making the relationship work for you. You take charge of the sex, how and when it happens. You can take it further and take charge of the entire relationship, outside of the bedroom as well. Or not. I wish more women understood what being a Domme really is versus the stereotypes. However, men don’t seem to really get it either.

From Being A Domme Alone.

This Is What You Need When I’m Not Around

Of course, I’d still like to see the ass-kicking machine in use — one loser receives the punishment while another, awaiting his turn, operates the crank. The rest of you wait on your knees, like good little piggies.

A patent illustration found at Futility Closet.

The Female Aggressor

From Female Aggressor, by Lou Condor:

The Lusts of the Dominant Female

Married or single, the sado-masochistic female turns her partners into warped salves of carnal lust. This scientific, documented volume presents CASE HISTORIES of a female flagellant, spanking wife, masochistic husband and many others.

Read about clubs for DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE, MARITAL TRAINING, SUBMISSIVE HUSBANDS–and those bizarre DOMINATION GAMES! The masculine female is herewith exposed as a creature of compulsive domination who makes men her playthings of perversion.

I love the classics, don’t you?

(And it’s only $1 to read the whole thing!)

So, You Want To Be A Submissive Male, Hmm?

Just a snippet from Mistress Magick‘s brilliant post, Pseudo-Subs: Fantasy Wankers:

Top sign that you might be a Fantasy Wanker:

Do you keep changing the conversation or redirecting it back to your own desires/fantasies?

Real Submissives focus on their Mistress’ desires, revealing theirs as she is interested in hearing them. It is her job to weave them into their play in ways that they can both enjoy.

Fantasy Wankers focus on their own desires, but think that their dreams should automatically be a “service” to a Mistress, because it is in their fantasy. In reality, She may have not interest in that activity whatsoever. These are often the guys who should go to Pros, in that they are expecting a service: to have their fantasy acted out exactly as they desire.

Many Fetishes can fall into this category, in that they need their fetish to be done in an exact way in order for them to enjoy it. Even though they may be very sincere, they aren’t actually submissives, because they aren’t submitting to the desires and service of their Dom/mes.

This gets a hearty, “Amen!” from myself, and, I daresay, the rest of the dominant females here at Clit Orations. But that’s not the only reason I share it.

Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of questions along the lines of, “How do I get my wife to dominate me?” Or, more accurately, they whine, “You’d think they’d want to boss me around and make me do stuff…”

But you see, that’s the problem; many of you male subs — especially those whining thus — are not really dreaming of doing her bidding. You are dreaming that she’ll do your bidding, bossing you around just the way you want it.

In BDSM circles, this is called “topping from the bottom” — and it’s an exhaustive subject, both in terms of the vast material and conversations going on about it and the dull, annoying repetitive energy a professional Domme like myself must put into it.

As Mistress Magick points out, this wishing vs. reality can be a chronic problem for any fetishist. One one hand, there are (usually quite) specific requirements to your kink and you dream of having them met; on the other, this rigidity can spoil things when the fantasy is taken out of your head and into real life. And when you try to take this sex fantasy into your vanilla partnership, the rigidity only adds performance anxiety to the other pressures and concerns.

As Mistress Magick also states, this is one of the reasons many male submissives seek the professional paid services of a Femdom — for the chance to live out their fantasies. But…

Not every professional Femdom, Dominatrix, etc. will provide that service. Or, if they are willing to deliver your fantasies and not expect you to submit to their whims, they may not be willing to provide the specific submissive fantasy delights you dream of.

After all, not all subs &/or sissies are alike, so why would Femme Dommes be?

It’s best to ask some questions, shop around even. And you must also be open to listening to what the professional has to say; if she’s truly a professional, she knows what she’s doing.

For those of you who have “played” with other Mistresses, professional or not, please kindly remember that trying to recreate those experiences with another partner is not likely to succeed.

I don’t think there is a woman (or man) anywhere who enjoys being compared to another and found wanting. So if & when you decide to take your submissive sex fantasies to your wife or real life lover, kindly remember your place as well as hers — and give her the chance to lead.